DR – July 10, 2017

Daily Recovery Readings for July 10, 2017:

Daily Reflection

TOWARD PEACE AND SERENITY

. . . when we have taken a square look at some of these defects, have discussed them with another, and have become willing to have them removed, our thinking about humility commences to have a wider meaning.

— TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 74

When situations arise which destroy my serenity, pain often motivates me to ask God for clarity in seeing my part in the situation. Admitting my powerlessness, I humbly pray for acceptance. I try to see how my character defects contributed to the situation. Could I have been more patient? Was I intolerant? Did I insist on having my own way? Was I afraid? As my defects are revealed, I put self-reliance aside and humbly ask God to remove my shortcomings. The situation may not change, but as I practice exercising humility, I enjoy the peace and serenity which are the natural benefits of placing my reliance in a power greater than myself.

Big Book Quote

“If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. The grouch and the brainstorm were not for us. They may be the dubious luxury of normal men, but for alcoholics these things are poison.” 

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, How It Works, pg. 66~

 

Keep It Simple

Everybody knows that when they’re happy than usual, the people around them are happy.
—George Harrison

Do we think we can’t be happy until others are happy? Then nobody is happy. Our unhappy friends won’t take our advice. They say,” Why should I do what you say? You are not happy either.” And we answer, “I’ll be okay when you’re happy.” We make them responsible for our happiness. What a mess!

We can only make one person happy—ourselves. How? By living as our Higher Power leads us. By working the Steps. By being grateful for the good things in our lives. By loving ourselves and others, just as we are.

And maybe when we’re happy, our friends will learn from us. They can be happy too. But only our friends can make themselves happy.

Prayer for the Day:
Higher Power, as I do my part in Your plan today, help me feel connected to You and to life.

Today’s Action:
Today I’ll enjoy my happiness. I’ll look for three ways to share it with others.

Daily Horoscope – Cancer

An unavoidable disagreement over an intensely emotional issue could provoke random feelings of helplessness now. Thankfully, transformation is your superpower today, enabling you to skillfully turn negative emotions into fuel for positive change. Looking within your heart can lead you to your own tender spot, but your self-awareness won’t matter until you are vulnerable with your partner. Buddha taught, “When words are both true and kind they could change the world.”

DR – July 9, 2017

Daily Recovery Readings for July  9, 2017:

Daily Reflection

I AM AN INSTRUMENT
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
— TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 70

 

The subject of humility is a difficult one. Humility is not thinking less of myself than I ought to; it is acknowledging that I do certain things well, it is accepting a compliment graciously.

God can only do for me what He can do through me. Humility is the result of knowing that God is the doer, not me. In the light of this awareness, how can I take pride in my accomplishments? I am an instrument and any work I seem to be doing is being done by God through me. I ask God on a daily basis to remove my shortcomings, in order that I may more freely go about my A.A. business of “love and service.”

Big Book Quote

“We have no desire to convince anyone that there is only one way by which faith can be acquired. If what we have learned and felt and seen means anything at all, it means that all of us, whatever our race, creed, or color are the children of a living Creator with whom we may form a relationship upon simple and understandable terms as soon as we are willing and honest enough to try.” 

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, There Is A Solution, pg. 28~

Keep It Simple

First say to yourself what you would be: and then do what you have to do. – Eptctetus

We often tell ourselves we want to be more peaceful, more in touch with our Higher Power. In other words, we want to become more spiritual. Acting as spiritual people is hard. Tho often, we choose the easy way. We make a nasty comment even if we know it’ll only make things worse.

We say we have a program for living. Are we living our program? We’ll find the answer in our behavior. Sober people act in sober ways. We attend meetings regularly. We study spiritual ideas. We work to bring joy to our lives and the lives of others. Just as we know a good friend by the way he or she behaves, we know a sober person by the way he or she behaves.

Prayer for the Day:
Higher Power, help me be a person whose words and actions match up.

Today’s Action:
Today I’ll take an inventory of my actions to see if they are those of a sober person.

Daily Horoscope – Cancer

A friendship or partnership might run into obstacles that require you to reexamine your emotions. You must communicate your feelings as honestly as possible while the dutiful Capricorn Full Moon shines in your 7th House of Relationships, stirring up trouble or excitement. If there is someone special in your world, how you handle resolving a touchy conflict now establishes the foundation for what comes next. Either way, responding directly from your heart can improve the overall quality of your everyday life. Brene Brown wrote, “What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.”

DR – July 8, 2017

Daily Recovery Readings for July 8, 2017:

Daily Reflection

AN EVER-GROWING FREEDOM, p.198

The Seventh Step is where we make the change in our attitude
which permits us, with humility as our guide, to move out from
ourselves toward others and toward God.

~Twelve & Twelve, p.76

When I finally asked God to remove those things blocking me
from Him and the sunlight of the Spirit, I embarked on a journey
more glorious than I ever imagined. I experienced freedom from
those characteristics that had me wrapped up in myself. Because
of this humbling Step, I feel clean. I am especially aware of this
Step because I’m now able to be useful to God and to my fellows. I
know that He has granted me strength to do His bidding and has
prepared me for anyone, and anything, that comes my way today. I
am truly in His hands, and I give thanks for the joy that I can be useful
today.

Big Book Quote

“Let families realize, as they start their journey, that all will not be fair weather. Each in his turn may be footsore and may struggle. There will be alluring shortcuts and by-paths down which they may wander and lose their way.”

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, The Family Afterward, pg. 122~

Keep It Simple

Pain can’t be avoided. It’s as natural as joy. – Unknown

We got into a lot of trouble trying to avoid pain. We used alcohol and other drugs to avoid pain. We didn’t want to accept pain as a fact of life.

We can’t avoid pain, but now we have the program. The program teaches us how to talk about our pain. The program teaches how to turn over our pain to our Higher Power.
We don’t have to be alone when we face pain. We have friends to go to. Before, when we hurt, we ran to alcohol or other drugs.

Now, when we hurt, we run to the comfort of our sponsor and our program friends.

Prayer for the Day:
Higher Power, help me accept pain as part of life. Help me remember that You are always there to help me with my pain. I’m not alone.

Today’s Action:
Today, I’ll list three painful events in my life. I’ll talk with a friend about them.

Daily Horoscope – Cancer

You’re ready to lighten the mood but it seems as if everyone else is being overly serious today. Although there appears to be an attitude difference between you and those close to you, this might be a reflection of your inner dynamics. Take a few moments to check on your unexpressed feelings, especially if you’re angry about an issue you don’t wish to discuss. Author Steven Pressfield wrote, “Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands resistance.”

DR – July 7, 2017

Daily Recovery Readings for July 7, 2017:

Daily Reflection

. . . AND LETTING GO OF IT
. . . primarily fear that we would lose something we already possessed or would fail to get something we demanded. Living upon a basis of unsatisfied demands, we were in a state of continual disturbance and frustration. Therefore, no peace was to be had unless we could find a means of reducing these demands. The difference between a demand and a simple request is plain to anyone.
— TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 76
Peace is possible for me only when I let go of expectations. When I’m trapped in thoughts about what I want and what should be coming to me, I’m in a state of fear or anxious anticipation and this is not conducive to emotional sobriety. I must surrender – over and over – to the reality of my dependence on God, for then I find peace, gratitude and spiritual security.

Big Book Quote

“Let no alcoholic say he cannot recover unless he has his family back. This just isn’t so. In some cases, the wife will never come back for one reason or another. Remind the prospect that his recovery is not dependent upon people. It is dependent upon his relationship with God. We have seen men get well whose families have not returned at all. We have seen others slip when the family came back too soon.”

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, Working With Others, pg. 99~

Keep It Simple

Be brave enough to accept the help of others.

Often is the past, we acted like we didn’t need anyone. It takes courage to let others help us.

As we get better, our courage grows. We invite people into our lives. We help others, and we let others help us.

We will learn to let others help us if we work our program. Why? Because we need others to stay sober. When we have a problem, we talk about it in our group. When we need a shoulder to cry on, we call a friend or our sponsor. Over time, our relationships become one of the biggest rewards of recovery.

Prayer for the Day:
Higher Power, help me see my need for others as a test—a test to see if I’ll be brave enough and wise enough to ask for help when I need it.

Action for the Day:
Today, I’ll list four times in my life when I needed help but didn’t ask for it. I’ll tell a friend about how these times would have been different if I had asked for help.

Daily Horoscope – Cancer

Pursuing a relationship for business or pleasure may be so effortless today that you don’t realize the intensity of your charm. But your inflated expectations could lead to disappointment later in the day when reality sets back in. Fortunately, you can minimize the let down by remaining cautious from the beginning. However, there’s no reason to entertain negativity, either. Focus on the present moment without turning any molehills into mountains. Jack Welch said, “Face reality as it is, not as it was or as you wish it to be.”

NY Faerie Festival

During my late 20’s to early 30’s, when I was living in Southern California, I was involved in the Southern California Renaissance Faire (a.k.a. The Original Renaissance Pleasure Faire, as it’s called now). It was only a three-year stretch which I partook in the festivities helping a friend manage her small shop. I have always loved the Renaissance period in history, so I jumped at the opportunity. At the time, there was an expectation to be drunk for the whole weekend. I met that expectation with flying colors. However, since then I haven’t been to another festival.

After moving to New York, establishing some pagan friends, I was told there was the Sterling Rennasiance Faire. Over the years I wanted to go but either never found the time or didn’t have transportation to get there. However, over the years, my old pagan friends became distant and my new sober friends had no interest in such things.

A couple years ago I came across the NY Faerie Festival in Ouaquaga, NY, which wasn’t as much of a drive as Sterling, NY. But again, over the years, there was no interest of my new sober friends, neither did I have the time, funds or transportation. But that all changed when I got my car. Unfortunately, I didn’t want to go alone, thus year after year I didn’t.

That was until last weekend on July 2, 2017. A co-worker of mine posted an interest on Facebook. I was ecstatic! We decided to go despite the impending inclement weather. I drove up to Ithaca to her house, then we took the hour and a half ride to find it “in a hamlet of Ouaquaga, New York”. Amazingly, it was the perfect setting.

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The festival was located in a small valley (for a lack of a better description) while parking was up top. The path down the hill led to the entrance, a castle gate. You were immediately greeted by magical creatures to set the atmosphere of what was to become. It was much smaller than the Rennaisance Faire, but again I was now living in a much smaller community.

But the involvement of those who visited and those participating in the Faire was amazing.

 

We had my friend’s two-year-old son with us.  She spent part of the previous night making a gnome costume for him. He is such a cutie!!  He wasn’t scared nor excited. He looked like he didn’t know what to do. We had him in a stroller, which he got tired of, so we got him out and let him walk around. There was mud everywhere, so when we got him back in the stroller or when I was holding him, it was inevitable we were going to get it on us. He was an adorable child to have with us. My friend is truly blessed!!

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We were there for approximately an hour and a half. Again, it’s not a large festival but we did take our leisure time. A majority of the Faire, if there wasn’t an activity going on (like the presentation of the Queen above), were vendors selling their “wares”. Most everything is crafted by themselves. There were food vendors there too. I admitted I wasn’t going to purchase anything because it can be quite expensive (i.e. a large cup of lemonade was $4.00 at one vendor). But on the way back to leave my friend eyed the “jerky cart” which had an assortment of “special” jerky. So she purchased alligator, ostrich, and buffalo (I think). I didn’t ask how much she paid ‘cus honestly I didn’t want to know – lol.

 

So we enjoyed ourselves immensely. So did Jr. He began to get cranky in the car ride home. We stopped in Whitney Point for lunch at Wendy’s. I ordered a chocolate shake to share with Jr but they didn’t have any spoons? Really? Afterward, we went through a severe thunderstorm and downpour when we arrived back in Ithaca, NY. It was a really pleasant day with the two of them.

I hope I can enjoy more summer days with them before summer ends!

DR – July 6, 2017

Daily Recovery Readings for July 6, 2017:

Daily Reflection

IDENTIFYING FEAR . . .

The chief activator of our defects has been self-centered fear. . . .

— TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 76

When I feel uncomfortable, irritated, or depressed, I look for fear. This “evil and corroding thread” is the root of my distress: Fear of failure; fear of others’ opinions; fear of harm, and many other fears. I have found a Higher Power who does not want me to live in fear and, as a result, the experience of A.A. in my life is freedom and joy. I am no longer willing to live with the multitude of character defects that characterized my life while I was drinking. Step Seven is my vehicle to freedom from these defects. I pray for help in identifying the fear underneath the defect, and then I ask God to relieve me of that fear. This method works for me without fail and is one of the great miracles of my life in Alcoholics Anonymous.

Big Book Quote

“In dealing with resentments, we set them on paper. We listed people, institutions or principles with whom we were angry. We asked ourselves why we were angry. In most cases, it was found that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal
relationships,(including sex) were hurt or threatened.”

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, How It Works, pg. 64~

Keep It Simple

When fate hands us a lemon, let’s try to make lemonade.—Dale Carnegie

Our illness is one big lemon, but our recovery is lemonade. None of us signed up to be drunks or drugies, but we all signed up for recovery. That’s when the happiness began.

Yes, there will be pain, but the joy will far outweigh the pain. The sweet joy of recovery becomes our drink—our lemonade. And, do we drink!

We have new friends. We love ourselves, our Higher Power, our family, and much more.

We are creative when we give joy, love, and help to others and to ourselves. If your lemonade isn’t sweet enough, add more of your program.
Prayer for the Day:
Higher Power, it’s easy to forget how much You’ve given me. Thank you for all the joy and love You have given me.

Action for the Day:
Today, I’ll write down what part of recovery I really enjoy. I will then share this list with my group or friend.

Daily Horoscope – Cancer

You might harbor regrets about something you recently did, especially if you didn’t heed the common-sense advice you received. It’s possible that you had an excellent idea and simply took it too far. Fortunately, there’s still time to compensate for overplaying your hand, but you need to act quickly. There’s no shame in retreating in order to consolidate your position today. However, if you continue to ignore an imbalance of your making, you will suffer the consequences soon enough. People who create their own drama are subject to their own karma.

DR – July 5, 2017

Daily Recovery Readings
July 5, 2017

Daily Reflection

A NEW DIRECTION

Our human resources, as marshaled by the will, were not sufficient; they failed utterly. . . . Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God’s will into all our activities.

— ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, pp. 45, 85

I hear talk of the “weak-willed” alcoholic, but I am one of the strongest-willed people on earth! I now know that my incredible strength of will is not enough to save my life. My problem is not one of “weakness,” but rather of direction. When I, without falsely diminishing myself, accept my honest limitations and turn to God’s guidance, my worst faults become my greatest assets. My strong will, rightly directed, keeps me working until the promises of the program become my daily reality.

From the book Daily Reflections
Copyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

Big Book Quote

“It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do, for alcohol is a subtle foe. We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual
condition.”

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, Into Action, pg. 85~

Keep It Simple

If at first, you don’t succeed, you’re running about average.—Ovid

Our program speaks of spiritual progress, not perfection. We can take all the time we need. Our bottom line is steady progress. We can ask ourselves, “Am I a little more spiritual than I was a year ago? A month ago?” If the answer is yes, we’re doing great. If the answer is no, we should look at why.

Our illness pushes us to be perfect. In recovery, we learn that we are free to be what we are—human. Even the world’s fastest runners are average in most other areas of their lives. This is okay. Remember, “spiritual progress, not perfection.”

Prayer for the Day:
Higher Power, I’ll not be ashamed of how average I am. I’ll remember I’m average—and that’s good.

Action for the Day:
I’ll list what is average about me. I’ll share this with a friend. Than I’ll ask my friend what is special about me.

Daily Horoscope – Cancer

You can tell there are big changes coming, even if everything seems copacetic today. It feels like a big storm is brewing and you’re not buying into the sunny weather forecast. Nevertheless, it’s crucial to stay calm as pockets of political and emotional turbulence approach. Fortunately, addressing your fears helps to alleviate your concerned anticipation. Engaging in a heart-to-heart conversation with a trusted friend softens your worries now and offers the support you need. Think globally; act locally.

Back to the Country

To those that live in the United States:

HAPPY 4TH OF JULY!!
THANK YOU TO ALL THE 
SERVICE MEN AND WOMEN
WHO MAKE THIS POSSIBLE!

July-4th-Quote

The last four days have been a little hectic, but I’m finally out of Binghamton, NY, and moved into my new home in Van Etten, NY.  It took only three car loads to get the rest of my stuff from Binghamton. I even had the chance to go to the NY Faerie Festival, A Midsummer’s Dream in Ouaquaga, NY which I’ll link to another post shortly. After my final trip in Binghamton, I got a call from work asking me to work four hours Monday evening. There are still a couple things I have to work on at my new home but in time I’ll get things completed since I have a lot more time to myself.

The old landlord, who was putting in new windows on the side of the house, didn’t even acknowledge my presence. Whatever! Good riddance to you too!! He wasn’t probably happy with me because I told his son that I was planning on leaving furniture I wasn’t able to move. At least I didn’t leave the place a mess. Oh, I wanted to but I’m not that kind of person. I even made a trip to the Salvation Army to drop off a donation of clothes and other things. I also went to the Broome County Library to donate all my hard copy of books which was painful for me. But I’m minimalizing and going electronic, so the relief afterward was more rewarding than the sadness of tossing a small library of hard copy books. But I know they will benefit the library and go to others who will enjoy them. The last trip comprised of all my computers and the stereo.

I even made a trip to the Salvation Army to drop off a donation of clothes and other things. I also went to the Broome County Library to donate all my hard copy of books which was painful for me. But I’m minimalizing and going electronic, so the relief afterward was more rewarding than the sadness of tossing a small library of hard copy books. But I know they will benefit the library and go to others who will enjoy them. The last trip comprised of all my computers and the stereo.

The last trip comprised of all my computers and the stereo. I didn’t realize I had ten computers and eight monitors stored in various places. My goal was to take those “shells”  and monitors that don’t work to the Broom County dump. Obviously, it didn’t happen like I planned. I was able to load everything in my car in one load. At approximately 2 p.m., I left Binghamton, for the last time.

While I was scheduled as four days off, I knew work would call asking me to come in because of short staff.  Surprisingly, they didn’t Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. But come Monday, when I was in Binghamton about to finally leave, they asked if I would be able to come in for four hours or more. I agreed since it was 2 p.m. and I was given the opportunity to come in anytime before 7 p.m. So when I got to my new home, I placed all the stuff in my front bedroom, showered and off to work I went. I just love the trip to work now, straight up NYS Highway 34 into Ithaca. It takes approximately 30 minutes to and from work. Loving it! I can’t wait to see the gas savings since my car gets more than 30 miles to a gallon.

I just love my new place. Across the street is a small farm, so I’m visited by the rooster and his eight hens every morning while I’m sitting on the porch by the front bedroom. They also take shade under the porch. There are times I come out to a sudden wave of chickens scattering everywhere – a little scary (**chuckle). There isn’t much traffic coming down the street either. It’s just quiet and serene. Just the way I have always dreamed.

There is still a lot of work to do, but things will happen at the right time.

Now off to work . . .

DR – July 4, 2017

Daily Recovery Readings
July 4, 2017

Daily Reflection

. . . deep down in every man, woman and child, is the fundamental idea of God. It may be obscured by calamity, by pomp, by worship of other things, but in some form or other it is there. For faith in a Power greater than ourselves, and miraculous demonstrations of that power in human lives, are facts as old as man himself.

— ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 55

I have seen the workings of the unseen God in A.A. rooms around the country. Miracles of recovery are everywhere in evidence. I now believe that God is in these rooms and in my heart. Today faith is as natural to me, a former agnostic, as breathing, eating and sleeping. The Twelve Steps have helped to change my life in many ways, but none is more effective than the acquisition of a Higher Power.

From the book Daily Reflections
Copyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

Big Book Quote

“These men had found something brand new in life. Though they knew they must help other alcoholics if they would remain sober, that motive became secondary. It was transcended by the happiness they found in giving themselves for others.”

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, A Vision For You, pg. 159~

Keep It Simple

I have a dream.—Martin Luther King Jr.

During our addiction, maybe we dreamed of joy and laughter with our family—only to find tears and anger. Maybe we dreamed of respect at our job—only to be fired. Our dreams began to feel like burdens. We had lost hope.

With recovery, the hope starts to return. We start to trust ourselves again. We start to trust others again. We start to trust in our Higher Power. Over time, we even dare to dream again. In our dreams, we are loving people. We have something to offer others. We are not scared. This is a sign that hope is returning. We fall in love again with the world, our Higher Power, and ourselves.

Prayer for the Day:
Higher Power, thank-you for giving back my future. Thank-you for giving back my dreams.

Action for the Day:
Today, I’ll tell my dreams to a friend. Do my future dreams include improving myself through the program?

Daily Horoscope – Cancer

A fresh wave of optimism fuels your self-confidence and subdues your insecurities. But proceeding with caution is wise while the presence of three planets in hypersensitive Cancer triggers emotional turmoil, especially if you end up revealing more than you intended. It doesn’t hurt to think twice before sharing your story. However, your discretion could easily turn to resentment if you remain quiet. Don’t settle on an extreme reaction when a middle path exists comfortably between total transparency and paranoid secrecy. All your relationships will benefit from a healthy sense of fair play.

DR – July 3, 2017

Daily Recovery Readings
July 3, 2017

Daily Reflection

EXPERIENCE: THE BEST TEACHER

Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times.

— ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 87

Some say that experience is the best teacher, but I believe that experience is the only teacher. I have been able to learn of God’s love for me only by the experience of my dependence on that love. At first I could not be sure of His direction in my life, but now I see that if I am to be bold enough to ask for His guidance, I must act as if He has provided it. I frequently ask God to help me remember that He has a path for me.

From the book Daily Reflections
Copyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

Big Book Quote

“Life will take on new meaning. To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends this is an experience you must not miss.”

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, Working With Others, pg. 89~

Keep It Simple

We are only as sick as the secrets we keep.— Anonymous

It is dangerous for us to keep secrets. Shame builds, and we’ll want relief. We may turn to alcohol or other drugs. True relief comes by talking about our secrets, by sharing who we really are with others. Our program helps us live a life based on honesty. Our program helps us battle shame. We don’t keep secrets anymore. We start our meetings and share what we tried to keep secret before.

” Hi, my name is____________, and I’m am alcoholic.” ” Hi my name is_____________, and I’m a drug addict.” We keep telling our secret, and the shame gets less and less.

Prayer for the Day:
Higher Power, I pray to live an honest life.

Action for the Day:
I’ll list any secrets I’ve been keeping. I’ll talk with my sponsor about them.

Daily Horoscope – Cancer

Although sharing your fantasies takes courage, it also requires a methodical approach today. Your feelings are running deeper now, so just blurting your truth at the first opportunity might seem out of context to others. Don’t just jump directly to the punchline; tell your story from the beginning so everyone can follow along. Often, the fastest route isn’t the best one when it comes to delivering your message. Consider your audience before opening your mouth.